What to do after no Contact Rule: 10 Tips you must do

What to do after no Contact Rule: 10 Tips you must do to get your ex back

You observed no-contact after a break up, your ex has finally reached out.  To being with establish who initiated the break up? You or him. Supposing it was him, what do you do? Did he give a reason for breaking up with you?. Was there closure?. Did you have a conversation to end the relationship?. Did he just disappear and stopped contacting you? These questions should help you decide what to do next. How has your ex reached you? Did you see a call, a missed call, a text, an email? Contents of the text. What to do after no Contact Rule: 10 Tips you must do to get your ex back

Do not rush to respond immediately

Take a few hours before responding to any of the means your ex has used to reach out. If he has sent a text and you must reply say, “Hey, I just saw your text, thank you”. It shows you have not been waiting and you don’t have negative feelings about him. Take it slow. Build a natural or organic connection. Generally, get a feel of things, how do you feel? How does his texts feel? Is he nonchalant?. If you decide to continue with communication by returning that call or that text, then consider what you would like the two of you to talk about. Never talk about the break up with your ex. Do not initiate this conversation.

Positive energy

Keep a positive attitude during your conversations. Have less self-gratification and don’t get impatient and jump at every crumb they throw at you, subtle texts like “I miss you” should not draw you in. How can you tell their intentions of reaching out. Do they want you back? What about you? Do you want to have them back?

Texting Tips

1. Do not reply right away, be patient
2. Always sound upbeat and positive
3. Show your ex that you are keeping busy- you have a life with attractive activities and you have been doing well since they left. Avoiding creating the impression you have been waiting for them.
4. Keep your messages brief and interesting, dont appear desperate for attention and keep initiating texts, calls and meetings.
5. Be the one to end the conversation. Look for a valid reason, you can say you have a meeting with your friends and say “catch up later” you can say you have to get back to work.
6. If they text substantial texts like “I miss you” let him explain what he misses about you. Wait until they say something substantial. Responding too fast, not right away. These texts can be used to test waters by your ex to know how you feel based on his intentions.
7. Only exchange afew texts messages every few days no more than 6 to 7 texts a day. It will help you not appear too eager to have them back especially if they initiated the breakup.
8. Dont bring up old drama, remain positive and let them establish a quick meet-up and dont be so eager to make plans for a meeting
9. If you decide to take them back, play it cool, subtle is key, keep yourself busy and dont let your ex see your emotions.
10. A time will come when he will raise the conversation – why he broke up with you. Until such a time take things slow and don’t be the first to bring up that conversation.

Do not rush to respond immediately

Take a few hours before responding to any of the means your ex has used to reach out. If he has sent a text and you must reply say, “Hey, I just saw your text, thank you”. It shows you have not been waiting and you don’t have negative feelings about him. Take it slow. Build a natural or organic connection. Generally, get a feel of things, how do you feel? How does his texts feel? Is he nonchalant?. If you decide to continue with communication by returning that call or that text, then consider what you would like the two of you to talk about. Never talk about the break up with your ex. Do not initiate this conversation.

Positive energy

Keep a positive attitude during your conversations. Have less self-gratification and don’t get impatient and jump at every crumb they throw at you, subtle texts like “I miss you” should not draw you in. How can you tell their intentions of reaching out. Do they want you back? What about you? Do you want to have them back?

Texting Tips

1. Do not reply right away, be patient
2. Always sound upbeat and positive
3. Show your ex that you are keeping busy- you have a life with attractive activities and you have been doing well since they left. Avoiding creating the impression you have been waiting for them.
4. Keep your messages brief and interesting, dont appear desperate for attention and keep initiating texts, calls and meetings.
5. Be the one to end the conversation. Look for a valid reason, you can say you have a meeting with your friends and say “catch up later” you can say you have to get back to work.
6. If they text substantial texts like “I miss you” let him explain what he misses about you. Wait until they say something substantial. Responding too fast, not right away. These texts can be used to test waters by your ex to know how you feel based on his intentions.
7. Only exchange afew texts messages every few days no more than 6 to 7 texts a day. It will help you not appear too eager to have them back especially if they initiated the breakup.
8. Dont bring up old drama, remain positive and let them establish a quick meet-up and dont be so eager to make plans for a meeting
9. If you decide to take them back, play it cool, subtle is key, keep yourself busy and dont let your ex see your emotions.
10. A time will come when he will raise the conversation – why he broke up with you. Until such a time take things slow and don’t be the first to bring up that conversation.