4 Tips to help when you been ghosted

You met this amazing guy, you were just getting to know each other. Had gone for a couple of dates, you talk over the phone and text each other every minute, you like him!. Then just when you were starting to warm up to him, he pulls a Houdini act. You contact him, call, text no response you get worried, is he okay?, you get anxious. Days, weeks later, it essentially dawns on you that he has disappeared off the face of “earth”. Finally, it emerges that he doesn’t have the backbone to break up with you. The person you once thought worshiped the ground you walked on just ghosted you, 4 tips to help you when you have been ghosted.

Ghosted! Do you want your ex back

If you want someone to come back, the most important thing is self love. Additionally, you can’t have neediness, longing, desperation, grovel, think “I will be better if I have them back”. Self-love is your job, do daily meditations, how do you talk to yourself?. No more “character defects”, critical thoughts for instance telling yourself you are not good in doing certain things. Equally important don’t engage in this mind dialogue “that you cannot or will never get this”. Eliminate negative talk towards yourself. On the other hand, practice self-affirmations that support what you want.

Why you have been ghosted!

1. Demanding

Complained and nagged about what they didn’t do, similarly, telling them things like “you said you were going to call, you didn’t”

2. Control

Wanting to know where your specific person is all the time, wanting to know if they are seeing other people yet you had not agreed to be exclusive

3. Blaming them for how you feel

Ask yourself if they did that how did you feel, hence be in charge of your emotions and reactions

4. Not having your own life

No hobbies, no interests, always waiting around for them, always wanting to talk with them and for them to make their plans and include you.

What can you do? 4 Tips to help when you been ghosted

Create your own fulfilling life

Work on your life and do things that make you feel satisfied and happy. Consider exploring your interests for instance listen to music, go dancing, finish reading that book, watch a move, enjoy doing things that make you feel good. Look into your childhood, find new things that used to excite you, that exercise training you have been postponing. Have you been ever interested in traveling. Don’t cancel meeting with your friends to be with your specific person. Be fulfilling in our own self.

Enjoy time alone

Be happy to be you. People come back when you are in a happy place. When you are not disgruntled when you are not blaming them, controlling them, needing them. Let all that go, recollect and live your life. Spend time alone, get in contact with nature, visit a beautiful garden, do stuff just for you because it’s fun. When you lose track of time that’s when people come back.

Self love meditations and affirmations

Do a vision board of living in the end. Your imagination has to be creative, in fact think of the things you want to happen. Living in the end of what you want. You want love, connection, fun, feeling secure, feeling loved, feeling wanted, having a wonderful peaceful and calm relationship. Put pictures of the end result that you want and desire, cut words, google images, pictures of places you to want to get married and visit.

Some self-love affirmations you can say and script include I am loved, I am wanted, I am a priority, I am important, I matter, I am secure, I am worthy and I am deserving.

Focus on what you have

Find twenty things you are grateful for even while in shower. The more you are in the vibe the more you attract more of what you want in your life including your now ex.