7 healthy ways to cope with a breakup or divorce

7 healthy ways to cope with a break up or divorce

Can the relationship go back to how it was before breakup

This experience sounds familiar, your boyfriend has told you he needs space. He’s given you a reason to break up with you or worse you have just been ghosted. Yet you feel you want to have them back. Have the relationship back to the way it used to be. In addition, you want to do anything to make the relationship work so you decide to.

• Call
• Text
• Email
• you want to go to his place to try talking to him
• beg and grovel
• try to persuade your boyfriend not to dump you
• you feel desperate at the thought of losing him
• you were accustomed to talking on the phone to Mr. Ex and you want to continue
• want closure,
• to apologize for something which you never did

Stop!

I want to say right now, stop! Stop! Stop humiliating yourself with these behaviours. You have got to stop torturing yourself, feeling guilty over something you never did. Stay calm and grounded. Above all, don’t cry, beg, please, or grovel for him to take you back. No human being is afraid of a little conflict. Furthermore, if he was the man supposed to be rightfully in your life he is going nowhere. Also ask yourself are these strategies of chasing him working anyway?. He is losing more respect for you and you are boasting his ego and confirming that indeed he made the right decision to end this relationship, he finds you crazy. 7 healthy ways to cope with a breakup or divorce

7 healthy ways to cope with a break up or divorce

1. Don’t give him anything to rebel against you

In the initial part of the breakup, give him space and time to do the things he wants to do. For example, if he used to complain about never getting to go out with his friends while you were together. Now chances are he will go out with his friends, stay out way too late and drink alot and wake up the next day feeling miserable thinking “I don’t want to do this ever again”. When you willingly give him the space he’s asked for he not only begins to miss you, but he forgets his fears about the relationship and intensifies his good feelings about you.

2. Keep him off balance

Your amazing boyfriend had logical reasons for why he broke up with you,. Feeling that you two didn’t have enough in common is one reason. Boyfriend could have felt he was not ready for a committed or exclusive relationship among other reasons. The first option of giving him space will throw him off balance because it will be contrary to his expectations especially if you initially tried to convince (begged, pleaded) him to be with you after he broke up with you. This will lead to the next strategy.

3. Eliminate some of the reasons he had of breaking up with you

As a result, will have the opportunity to realize that he doesn’t know you as well as he thought. Allowing him to do some of the things that he didn’t get the chance to do in the relationship removes some of the logical reasons he had for breaking up with you in the first place.

4. Appreciate the “Wait” period for a guy

After breaking up, most men may go through periods of indecision. they struggle with doubt, regret and even reconsider their decision to break up with you. Sometimes during this period, events are most likely not going as he had planned since breaking up. It is sometimes a dark period when he’s lonely and regretting being out on the singles scene.

5. Fantasy of being single

This guy is also going to realize that the fantasy he had of being single does not always pan out as he had envisioned. Boyfriend may also get in a rebound which will end shortly because this new girl can’t compete with the deep connection he had with you. Besides, he will also start to miss you and everything you brought to his life. Then your attachment and nurturing are no longer there, you are not there for him to share his day with.

6. He needs to feel like he is winning you back

Soon he will be interested to have you back however now there is a challenge. Girlfriend is no longer in his life. As a human, when people are not in our lives it increases our value and proves to be a challenge, Misses you more, but it will not be a challenge if you convince him to take you back. He needs to feel that even though you love and care about him, him breaking up with you lost him credits, and he has to build up his credit again to win you back.

7. Find yourself

You lost yourself possibly in the relationship. It’s time to find yourself – go back to doing the things you used to love before you met his man and dropped everything for him. Consequently, this will make you very attractive to him and increase your chances of a reunion with him.