9 Unattractive Habits in a relationship

9 Unattractive Habits in a relationship

Your enemies in a relationship. On the contrary, your boyfriend is not the problem, so what’s the problem? 9 unattractive habits in a relationship

1. Neediness – behaviours such as obsessive e-mailing or calling to check if your partner is okay
2. Compulsive checking of your e-mail or voice mail to see if he has dropped you a message
3. Telling a man that you need him in order to be happy
4. Making overbearing demands to know exactly where he is and what he’s doing 24-7
5. Throwing silent or not-so-silent temper tantrums when you don’t have his full attention
6. Feeling a constant insatiable desire for his approval of how you look and what you are doing

Neediness

Wanting attention to an excessive degree comes from desperation and is a major turn-off. It puts tremendous amount of excessive pressure on a man. He will feel a constant demand to perform for you, to be perfect and to match your idealized standard for him. If he wrong you he will not only have to deal with his own integrity but he will feel responsible for your happiness as well.

When you have the false idea that you need him so that you can be happy, you give away all your power. Eventually, your well-being is at constant mercy of another person. You render yourself powerless.

Insecurity

Insecurity drives men crazy and feeds your ego illusion that you are somehow deficient and “less than”. When you entertain your insecure thoughts, it’s as though you are a bottomless pit that can never be filled no matter how much assurance you receive. Some insecure thoughts include:

Asking your boyfriend questions like:

“Do I look fat in this?”

“Still love me?”

“Is she prettier than me?”

“Am I attractive enough for you?’

Good enough

Insecurity and self-doubt lie within the natural human range of emotions and will never fully disappear. Understand that, now and then, everyone on the planet feels pangs of not being “good enough”. The key to being irresistible is not to indulge in or entertain those thoughts. But don’t resist them either! Simply allow yourself to notice or observe those feeling and say “I am having that thought again”. Not entertaining insecure thoughts is a learnable skill and an absolute must if you want to be irresistible. If you think you look fat in a particular outfit, you probably do. Not all clothes are meant for all body types. Stick with clothes that you know look fantastic on you and that showcase your assets.

Remain present and engaged in your life

Tip: No matter how thin, successful, or attractive you become, insecure thoughts don’t go away. That’s because you can never resolve an inner false thought with an outer reality. The way to cure the insecurity disease is to allow yourself to feel insecure when you do, don’t resist it. But don’t dwell on it either. Instead, shift your attention to what’s going on in your environment, if you simply notice insecure thoughts without taking them personally or making them mean anything, you will find they occur much less often. You will also strengthen your ability to remain present and engaged in your life.