10 subtle signs your partner is cheating on you – How to tell if someone’s cheating

10 subtle signs your partner is cheating on you – How to tell if someone’s cheating

Did you see it coming? 10 Subtle signs your partner is cheating on you – How to tell if someone’s cheating

• Your partner is emotionally unavailable over the past few years or months and it’s not work related.
• He/she is not going through some loss/trauma either.
• You feel like the two of you lost connection and understanding
• Having miserable arguments over anything, petty “things”
• Specifically you can’t seem to agree on anything
• Everything about you seems to annoy him/her
• One partner enjoys staying out more often and give excuses to justify his behaviour – not valid excuses
• Partner enjoys spending more time at work rather than at home
• Sometimes you cant figure out where he is, he’s not out there with mates? He’s not at work, not hanging out either
• The subtle gut feeling that something is not right
• No interest or desire to have sex with you

So you begin feeling ignored and you wonder what he’s upto?

These and more are clues of your partner having an affair. Although, we can’t yet conclude that it’s happening because we are yet to “catch him” however, it does not have to get to that. In addition, don’t panic! don’t torture yourself by suddenly becoming an investigator and snooping on his phone. Refrain from asking questions like “where have you been?” Above all, stay relaxed, calm, respectful and polite. Your partner will tend also to use his/her cell phone a lot and to keep it away from you.

More clues

They don’t seem to enjoy your company. Boyfriend sound like they don’t care and they have lost interest in anything about you. Specifically, they demand more privacy and independence and stop making plans with you. He/she will most certainly avoid conflict and silence follows. 10 subtle signs your partner is cheating on you – How to tell if someone’s cheating

Gut feeling

Now that you have this intuition and some evidence that your partner is having an affair what do you plan on doing next? Stop your thoughts from going into overdrive about this realization. Halt the endless suspicions and the disbelief. Above all get to understand why is this happening. What can you remember about your childhood?. As adults we seek out emotional situations similar to those we had in our childhood. How were your parents treating each other? Did they fight and argue a lot?. Then you will go for someone to fight with. If they put each other down, they were critical of each other?. Then you will choose guys who undermine your self-worth. If your parents neglected you or neglected each other, you will seek spouses who will neglect you too.

Was this man/woman married before?

Does this man have children from his former marriage? Do you feel satisfied/happy with your relationship with him? How do you feel? You are probably repeating a pattern of feeling unloved in your childhood by choosing people who can’t be there for you both emotionally and physically too. Start thinking about your past and if you spot this pattern, repetitive cycle drop anyone including your current partner. Let them go. Anyone who mistreats you need not be in your life. Make a point of only mixing with people who are nice to you.

Improve your Sex life

How is your sex life? You need to work at your sex lives because that’s what binds couples together. So back to point, what can you do when you find out that your spouse is having an affair? You need to understand that spouses stray for different reasons. Maybe there are problems in the relationship, something is missing like passion has faded or your spouse has found someone who treats them better with respect. People also happen to cheat when they find themselves in situations where their emotions overwhelm them.

What options do you have?

People want spouses who are understanding, appreciative, caring, helpful and fun to be around. Analyze how your relationship has been the past couples of years, do you find like you fight a lot. Is your home filled with fighting and bickering?. What options do you have? Couples can survive infidelity so long as they can resolve their underlying problems calmly. Do all you can to improve things with your partner and try to work out with your partner and resolve the underlying issues, before considering option 2. Leaving(to be featured in a different article.